Go ahead… Cake. My. Day. **Blows out 34 candles** That’s right y’all. It’s my name day. Feliz Cumpleanos to me. Another year wiser and older. So, I’m up late pinning stuff to Pinterest and waiting on my Mr. to get home from his latest trip when I suddenly thought to myself, “Wow, hes been out of town for work almost more than he’s been home.” It’s interesting how we’ve sort of adapted to being a three person household as of late and it definitely wasn’t a walk in the park. More like a park mugging. I was the one being mugged. But I’d say there were a few notable times when I wanted to scream but instead, made a few changes that actually stuck with me and turned out to be NEEDED adjustments. Are you in the same boat? Well, read on sailor!
You might think these images have nothing to do with what I’m talking about. But they actually speak in a number of ways. Before I share, let me start by saying there are a lot of cons to your spouse being gone several days at a time. The most obvious being that the extra help is gone. When my husband was home he did his share of bathing the kids, taking out the trash, killing spiders, (<— das a big one) and the ever so necessary, styling Aces hair with gel. 🙄 He was also my Bachelor accomplice and fervent commentator. He could always pick out the losers. But with him being gone, I had to take on the roll of Mom and Dad. I was the one locking the doors, killing the ants, soothing Ace’s uneasy spirits when hes had a nightmare. I also have to get my own gas. Okay, this might sound like I’m complaining about nothing but I actually stay 99% busy through the day (insert school, work, a store to run) so the thought of taking out the trash when I’m beat is just the worst. But I don’t ever give up on anything so, I adapted.
C H A N G E I S G O O D
Good tasting that is. I eat out more often. Yes, that’s right. I eat out with my kids when my husband is out of town. His meals are always paid for which means, I don’t have to buy a whole cow at the store to feed him. Someone else is doing that. In fact, we buy such little meat that I actually save on groceries. I take some of that extra money and pick a day that I am too busy to cook and we have a nice meal out. Sometimes its Denny’s on Tuesdays because the kids eat free and sometimes it’s Dim-Sum. I get to relax and know that I don’t have to cook or clean which in Mom language is basically a vacation without the sand.
I’m the boss and I’m in charge. If we want to stay at the park dill dusk, we can! If we want to eat mac n cheese for dinner, we can! We can go and do whatever because I make all the decisions. The truth is, I had always let my husband decide what we did, which show we watched and even, where we ate. Of course he would always ask my opinion and I would reply “whatever you want Papi!” I always meant it, and he was always so sweet about asking but being alone gave me the balance I needed to take the roll of the decision maker. And it feels good! I feel like it’s been so long since I have made a call on something more than crust or no crust. To a degree, everyone needs this human action. We all need to be able to make our own resolutions otherwise, we lose our confidence.
These pics were taken on a tri-pod outside my house on my birthday because I was trying to prove to myself that the vegan donuts I ate prior didn’t just wreck my diet and the 50 banded pulse-squats from last night. I also wanted to show off this darling bag from Tres Vu. This mini shoot wasn’t a super necessary call but like I mentioned, I make the rules now. However, the person who used to take all my pictures (the hubz) is gone so what’s a girl to do when she needs a photo for work? Well, that’s when I did two things I would have never done if I wasn’t forced: Meet with other bloggers and use my tripod. Turns out meeting other bloggers does SO MUCH more than get a picture. It’s my favorite time of the week! I love that I get to chat with like minded babes over double pumped lattes + capture some amazing images. It’s been a life saver for work and my soul. Also, I’ve really been testing my boundaries lately with my tripod and lenses. It’s so much fun + it’s forced me to learn even more about my camera and apps.
BTW, if you guys want to know how I edit my images from start to finish, LMK in the comments!
I got so many compliments on this vintage Chanel medallion piece. It’s from Switch, an online rental service for one-of-a kind jewelry pieces. For less than $30, you can get vintage dior, Hermes or current gucci… The possibilities are numerous! Use my code MejiaKristin22J for $25 of purchase credit. It’s great for special occasions. I have my girl Caitlin Sauer from Lost Luxe to thank for that one. #canttakethecred
Shoes: Lulus find them here
Jacket and dress: Thrifted
Bag: Tres Vu find it here
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