Cosmetic or corrective, surgery is a word that can make most folks uncomfortable. It used to be a last resort and non elective however, times have changed and now it’s as common as ever. According to medical news today, the American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS), saw almost 18 million people undergo surgical and minimally invasive cosmetic procedures in the United States in 2018. 2019 saw an increase and that’s not plateauing any time soon. So, if it’s so common to get it, why are most patients not talking about it?
I have always striven to be perfect for everyone. It comes naturally as I am a self-proclaimed recovering people pleaser. It’s taken years of affirmations, self-help books, friends and family to grow out of such a detrimental way of life. But the growth was slow. It was silent and often times I felt like I would never be okay with my inward beauty. Then I had children and the growth sped up. I wanted to be the very best for my kids and that encouraged me to fix ailments that weren’t visible. But the visible ones certainly came to fruition and I made the conscious decision to do something about the somethings I couldn’t do anything about.
What I’ve done:
I started to look up options for issues that had arose two years after I had my first child. The first elective surgery was my breast augmentation. (I went in to detail on everything in this post if you want to catch up and then return here. ) Basically, breastfeeding for 14 months took a toll on me resulting in loose skin and sagging tissue. The worst was the direction my nipples were pointing. I called them “sad boobies” because they looked as if they had just been broken up with… over text… on Valentines day. Sad, sulky breasts. I had never had much to work with prior to pregnancy and loved the size change (which of course I documented selfie style in my bathroom mirror.) Those images I snapped in my bra ended up being helpful when I went in for a consultation although, I died a little bit when I had to present them to my doctor in front of my husband. In the end, I’m happy I went in to fix this issue but not before unleashing the multitude of questions I had about plastic surgery to my doctor.
Fun Fact: I often get asked if my lips are natural and I’m always a little shocked when I do because… they are! I feel like the mole on my lip might make them look different than most but I don’t think it’s something I’d change or “fill” as they do these days. More on fillers below. 🙂
What I plan to do:
My Doctor gladly gave me the run-down about varicose veins and spider veins and what I could to to remove them. He said I would need to see a specialist about them which he didn’t cover at his practice. I did a little research and ended up calling West Medical here in LA. Apparently, I was susceptible to getting them due to genetics and then, they were accentuated with heavy lifting and multiple pregnancies. I was distraught at first until they explained how they can be fixed with surgery and other non-invasive treatments. Who knew you didn’t need all those veins in there? Since then, I’ve stopped heavy lifting, adopted a non-animal diet and switched to multiple reps instead of heavy weights to get more lean muscle. That isn’t the end however. I do plan on going to get my surgery after I save up some much needed cash… or just wait till my tax return comes in. Whichever happens first.
My Doctor also told me that I had a herniated belly button or better known as Diastasis recti. Diastasis Recti is the partial or complete separation of the rectus abdominis, or “six-pack” muscles, which meet at the midline of your stomach. Mine are about an inch separated still which caused my belly button to protrude just a bit. My sister who recently underwent the corrective surgery tells us that her pain was immense and the healing has since taken a long time. But she is very pleased with her stomach afterwards and I support that whole-heatedly. You can ask her any questions you might have about the post-op by following her on Instagram and messaging her. She’d love to fill you in on her journey.
Lastly, I didn’t want to leave with any disinclination or regret of not asking my Doctor about his baby-smooth face. After all, he is certified and I had been itching to question him for weeks. So I perked up and asked him straight up if he’d had any plastic surgery done on his marble-esque face to which he happily began to break down the benefits to Botox. I loved the way at which he described what Botox does and how it works. Basically, you are shrinking the muscles that you are injecting. Think of it as a child who is born with perfect skin. They have small facial muscles by nature and after working them for years and years, they become stronger, thus, creating the lines that are like a tell-all story. My story tells you that I smile a lot because my smile lines (marionette lines) and crows feet are the more prevalent ones in my face, where my husbands were his forehead lines. This is typical in the males and females that come to fix them. So, contrary to the belief that Botox freezes the face, it does quite the opposite. After receiving multiple treatments, your face retains the Botox longer leaving you with fewer appointments needed.
Although technically this last blurb is about something I have already done, it also falls under something I want to (or continue to do) and that is fillers. Injectable filler is a soft tissue filler injected into the skin to help fill in facial wrinkles, restoring a smoother appearance. Most of these wrinkle fillers are temporary because they are eventually absorbed by the body. These types last anywhere from a few months to six months and can be applied wherever you wish to plump up. For myself, it was important to lessen the marionette lines around my mouth and nose. A good filler normally lasts 6 months for me. I have a history of Juviderm injections that started around three years ago. However, I have not had any for almost a year now and I’m waaaay over due.
Details on this look:
Are you interested in any of the aforementioned treatments too? I’d love to know. If you have any questions for me, please don’t hesitate to ask!