So you’ve made tons of banana bread and your thinking, “is there anything else?” Well, yes! I know this year has been ONE but we are right smack in the middle of it. That’s right, we are entering our second semester and it’s time to check in and get back on track. Are you scared? I was too sis! It’s one thing to look at your daily schedule but it’s another thing to examine the year in a whole. But we can do this together. I’m right here with you. Let’s do this!
Before you read this, take a look at my NYE post from the beginning of the year here. Scroll for free pdf printables too.
Reasons for not meeting goals in 2020:
Lost your job
Lost a loved one
Then finding out his daughter was on board
business was struggling
The Aussie fires
Realizing the systematic racism that surges through this country..
and more Quarantine.
I see a pattern. I know you do too. 2020 sucks. I get it! I’m right there with you. My bestie came over during Friday the 13th (when it all went to poop) and she contracted COVID. I mean, I was emotional and scared and was totally not thinking of 2020’s goals. And for goodness sake, I focused on spring wedding trends on the blog (hysterical, I know) when no weddings were gonna happen. But just like I teach my kids, we can’t control what is happening to us but what we can control is how we react to it. So with that being said, let’s revisit our goals that we set but first, here’s how to be your own come-back-kid in 5 essential steps.
Now that you’ve identified the problem, you can revisit your goals you set at the beginning of the year. Was it to lose weight? Maybe you were going to start a business this year. Maybe your goal was to be a better friend or parent. You’ve experienced loss and your drive has driven you off a metaphorical cliff. Okay. This is the universe forcing you to practice not being in control. I let situations wash over me so that I can gently remind myself that I am only human. I am not perfect. It’s a reminder to me to lean in more on my faith. For me, God is in control. So, knowing he has a plan in all of this reassures me and changes my mindset.
Change your mindset.
My husband always says mind over matter. He is now the head in his department because he’s challenged himself and his mindset. I like to look at problems as hills and mountains. Once you’ve reached the top, the other side will be such a great view. So, as problems arise, I look to faith as my safety net and trust that this problem will only challenge me to guide with strength and persistence. I know that failure is inevitable but I also look at that as a stepping block. You wouldn’t learn if you didn’t fail first. In the words of Winston S. Chruchill, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” Essentially, your rebound counts on you!
Were your Motives good?
How do you go about getting things? Are you pushy, anxious, angry? Or does your drive come from being kind, giving and patient. Assessing where your motives come from is a big one for me. My sister in law (who just reached 10k on Instagram) has always been giving. She is the most unselfish person I have ever met. Her drive is people and her love is plants. So, it makes sense that shes doing so good with her goals in terms of business. She is a prime example of good motives paying off.
List of gratitude + what works & what didn’t:
Looking for the bright side is just that. You have to look! It can be hard in the beginning but after some time, the blessings will be so apparent. I really like the quote, “Those who leave everything in Gods hands, will eventually see Gods hands in everything.” -Harper and Willow This is a great tool especially with instances that you can’t control. In addition to this, with things that are in your control, making a list of what didn’t work is also a great prep to make sure you don’t repeat that mistake. For me, powering through every day without any time for myself was becoming detrimental.
Construct a Plan + envision success.
A plan takes dedication and time. You can refer to my post at the beginning of the year here. I have been using tools to get myself back on track. One that comes in handy on the daily is the MiGoals planner. You can shop it here. It’s a goal-oriented planner that does check in’s and breaks down the process towards achieving them in time increments that you select. It’s a great underrated tool. Another tool that is at everyone’s disposal is a good friend, companion or spouse that you know will hold you accountable. Sometimes it just takes verbalizing your goals. Stating what you wish to someone you can trust. Allowing them to keep you accountable and making sure that you are meeting monthly and yearly goals. I have a list of three people who help me to reach for more because if I only had myself, I’d be a mess. I also envision success. I have a vision board that I refer back to when things are getting heavy. Seeing those goals is a daily reminder. An easy way of doing that is to make one with the pics app and place it on your laptop background or your iphone.
One of my goals in the beginning of the year was to put on more muscle. I am going to run it through my 5 things to get back on track:
Revisit goal: Adding 5 pounds of muscle
Change mindset: I often feel like it’s impossible. But I want to love my fitness journey not just the end result. I think of how it feels to squeeze in a workout and it feels great! I love the adrenaline. I want to focus on that.
What are my motives? My motives were good but I also know that some were bad. I want to change that. I want to do this for my health and also for my kids. I want them to see a motivated, healthy Mom.
List of gratitude + what works and what doesn’t: I’m grateful for the opportunity to workout and move my body every day. Working out in the afternoon is the best time for me. What wasn’t working was my meals. I never meal prepped for myself. I need to take more time to eat the right things. I have been eating Mighty Macro’s meals that are plant based and fit my lifestyle. This way, I don’t have to worry about getting all the nutrients that I need because they are already in each meal. You can shop their meals (like the one I’m eating) here.
Whats my plan? I envision myself feeling less tired and looking my very best. I’m reasonable and I’m also not going to be super hard on myself. I want to continue to workout 5 days a week, eating well balanced meals. I can do this realistically by managing time more effectively, prepping my grocery list before hand so I don’t over buy and setting the time to do this each morning.
Please, don’t assume that I’ve met every goal on my path to better myself. Because I struggle meeting goals too. However, I’ve made strides to make goal’s achievable and tangible check lists to meet them.
I make sure to not be so hard on myself but I think that my personality is not to quit and to always keep pushing. In fact, sometimes I find it hard to sit down and rest. Whatever your personality is, just give yoursefl grace and keep pushing to step out of your comfort zone. I promise, you will achieve goals and crush them if you place the time and tools needed to do so.
What ways have you acheived goals? Did you find this blog post helpful? Is there anything else that you can add to this post? Let me know below!