It’s no secret that thing’s aren’t the norm. Covid has taken it’s toll on us all. But it doesn’t change my stance on vulnerability. I’m very open about my life because I think it’s important not only to share with you, but it’s therapeutic for me. Before I dive in to that, I wanted to share this brand I’ve come across that’s been part of my coping. When I was struggling with some issues last year, a friend gifted me a set from SKIMS and it got me through the winter with it’s comfort and warmth. It was like a hug all winter long when I needed it. Afterwards, I started shopping their products and went ahead and purchased some shape wear and then loungewear. I quickly noticed that their new releases go fast! I would recommend shopping early by signing up for their emails so you don’t miss a product release.
Sizing can be tricky. So, the set that was gifted to me was an XXS and was still on the bigger end in the pants. I recommend sizing down in the lounge wear. But the shape wear is definitely right on the money in terms of sizing. I’m pictured wearing the core control thong in an XS. It’s a bit snug on me but I went down a size since the only other products I’ve tried are the lounge wear. However, the material used in this particular garment is very well made. The thong is mid rise with a double waistband and silicone band in the back. For everyday use, the site recommends sizing up but I would wear this under a slinky dress especially on a date night. I did think about the bathroom situation but I’m the squat and pull kinda girl. I know, TMI but hey, it’s realistic.
I know you are like, “how does this tie in to my everyday?” Well, I’m currently in a space that can become very dark and dismal. I am learning to forgive. While I am on this journey, I also wanted to pay attention to my body and instead of assuming my typical lie-down-and-cry posture, I passed my pain and hurt to God our father through prayer and visiting with trusted friends. I also drank plenty of water, worked out every day (even though I had low energy from being wiped out emotionally) and bought new makeup. I had enough doing everything for everyone. I still am a full-time Mama but I extended myself grace, gave in to emotions when I was alone and leaned on others. I mean, really leaned. I had remembered the kindness of a friend when she gave me my first set from SKIMS and when it made me feel both collected and comfortable, I was able to be at home and at the very least, feel good about myself. It seems shallow but it’s actually treating yourself to what you need. If you need a pick-me-up, it’s a wonderful well spend gesture to yourself. Especially if you are in a similar situation where the ones nearest to you have un-intentionally (or intentionally) neglected you in any way.
If you are a empath, like me, you absorb other people’s emotions. It’s a quick way to deplete you own well. Empaths feel everything, sometimes to an extreme. They take on negativity such as anger or anxiety, which can be exhausting for them. Add that to being a Mom and a very dedicated wife is really a lot to bear. Despite the dismal atmosphere and the constant up and down, there is a list of small things I recently adopted that help me to be able to get through the day. My pain was very recent. And even though I am very entitled to my feelings, I was exhausted with anger, vengeance and betrayal. I put a wall up so high, that I wasn’t able to allow any help including God’s. Once I grew tired enough, I broke down and gave it all to him. Afterwards, I started seeking healing through forgiveness. It wasn’t like I just got up, dusted off my pants and forgave that instant. Instead, I started with willingness. I decided I would be willing to give forgiveness a try. This could only be done (for me) through prayer and reading about forgiveness and struggle in the Bible. It dawned on me, that who am I to not forgive if Jesus paid the ultimate price for us. Nelson Mandela once said:
Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.
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This yellow set is from the soft lounge collection. The black core control bottoms are what’s pictured on the bottom.
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Forgiveness can set you free from resentment and hate and is the first step to healing. That doesn’t mean that you trust (that person) or even need that person in your life. When you forgive, you’re giving a gift of freedom to yourself. Freedom to start healing. Even if you aren’t there yet, if you shift your view from “oh-no” to “I am willing…” to forgive, that’s a baby step in the right direction. This will begin to soften your heart and break down the walls. It’s a lighter feeling than the heaviness of betrayal and uncertainty. Forgiveness is not a weakness, an excuse or a cop out but rather, the ultimate sign of courage and strength. And those two words I want to embody.
I will speak to you guys soon.